Non-Christian family and friends of sex addicts

What you can do to help...

Don't condemn the person:  Condemnation seldom accomplishes anything more than causing the addict to become defensive and angry.   It could very well make him even worse off than before you tried to help him. 

Show them love: People usually don't get into porn to harm or offend others.  They are drawn into porn by their own desires, and then discover that they're hooked.  Love is the tool that will help rescue them. 

Break secrecy: Sex addicts like to stay in the dark.  Family and friends fear embarrassment and judgment if they tell others.  Breaking secrecy helps dispel the fear and open doors for getting help, both for you and the addict.  Ways to help break secrecy:

Don't visit the porn sites that your friend or loved one is visiting.   It's like jumping in the lake to save a drowning person when you don't know how to swim. We've heard from many people who looked at porn our of curiosity.   That one glimpse could give you unwanted memories for a lifetime.

Don't enable their habit:  If you are doing things that help them continue their sex addiction, we encourage you to stop.   If you are a parent of a porn addict, you could:

More help is available...

Have you been trying to tackle your loved one's sex addiction in your own strength?  Are you feeling like you're up against something that is bigger than you can handle?  Gaining freedom from sex addiction is a difficult task.  We believe that breaking the addiction is a healing process.  We have found that God is the source of reliable power that helps people walk to freedom.  God helps those who ask him for it.  To learn more about God and how he can help you with this, please visit our Peace with God page.

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